Q: Cyndi’s dilemma: My formerly gregarious mother evaporated into a whisper when I was twelve. She was only 43 when, almost overnight, she changed from a vibrant, healthy young mother into a stooped grandmother-like old lady. She spent all her time in bed or lounging in front of the TV. The only time she left home was to visit her doctor. After Mom died, at 48, my Dad’s sister said it was menopause that killed her. I am 42 and terrified because I feel as if impending menopause will drag me into the same spiral that killed my mother. My doctor keeps saying I have nothing wrong with me but says I must change my attitude or I will make myself sick. My sex drive is high but I worry it will disappear. A friend told me how you advocate sex as a tool to manage menopause. I desperately need reassurance.

A: Dear Cyndi,I suspect that your mother did not discuss sexual issues with you and you learned, as many of us, ... http://bit.ly/L4UZfQ